Sun in love
The Sun represents your basic inner ego energies, and its position in the chart denotes your overall inner direction. Its influence is quite general, referring to your orientation and style of life than to particular physical or mental attributes in love.
Any difficult aspects to the Sun mean that you are under a certain compulsive pressure, the effects of which depend on the nature of the planet aspected. Easy aspects, on the other hand, lend self-assurance, confidence and a feeling that you know where you are going.
Where the emphasis of the Sun by sign and house is different from that of other planets in the chart, there may be a dichotomy of inner direction and mental or social influences. For the most pleasure and reward from sexual expression, you must take into account all these factors, but in the long run the position of the Sun is likely to have a stronger effect.
Thus your eventual path of development will be fundamentally shaped by the position and aspects of the Sun, especially concerning your inner feelings about sex. However, at first your sexual habits and attitudes will probably be determined by the accepted social norms.
Moon in love
The Moon represents, in part, how you react to situations, sexual or otherwise. If this reactive style is consistent with other planetary indications, your behavior will be quite reliable and predictable. If this is not the case, your behavior will be characterized by more variety and sometimes inconsistency.
The Moon has to do with your response to love, which depends on your situation. When you are the one who is initiating activity, this factor is operating less than when you are responding to circumstances. How you feel about a certain sexual experience may depend on whether you or your partner suggested it. Being aware of this can help you to structure your relationships to take advantage of each partner’s type of response to suggestions.
Some people consider that the influence of the Moon is more important than the Sun in the charts of women, but that is true only if you consider that a woman should always take the passive or receptive role, which is a somewhat dated notion now. It is better for both men and women to use both the initiative (Sun) and reactive (Moon) centers of their personalities in patterns that will provide the most enjoyment and the best communication.
Mercury in love
The position of Mercury in your chart describes your mental style and inclinations. Since the stimulation for sexual expression is related to your attitudes and fantasies, Mercury is quite important in the discussion of sexuality. Depending on how you use imagination in the service of love, you may create a rich set of experiences or, on the other hand, you may inhibit your expression of love.
It is important to remember that the body cannot always go where the mind suggests. Some forms of sexual expression that seem exciting or enjoyable beforehand may be less interesting or even impossible in actual practice. But it is quite possible to enjoy those experiences in imagination, leaving the more practical forms of expression for real life. Your ability to do this successfully depends on how consistent the position of Mercury is with that of the other planets in your chart.
Mercury is basically an asexual planet and thus it is not a major indicator of your actual sexual expression or desires. Instead, it describes what you think about and the embellishments you dream up to add subtlety and variety to your sexual experience. To that extent, Mercury can have a powerful enriching effect, even though it is not a strong internal motivating factor, except through curiosity.
Venus in love
The position and aspects of Venus have a direct effect on your physical and emotional desires in a receptive or passive sense. If the position of Venus is not consistent with other planets in the chart, your physical or emotional desires may be quite unrelated to your long-term inner goals or direction. For example, close friendship with a lover may be important to you as a goal, but it may not figure at all in your concern with immediate physical gratification, and vice versa.
Venus represents the basic nature of your love desires, and it is quite important to satisfy them if you are to gain consistent reward from sexual expression. You should make a place for these desires even if they do not fit neatly into the pattern of an established relationship or your inherited code of moral ethics. A relationship that does not fulfill the partners’ basic physical needs will almost certainly flounder, no matter how much effort is spent on keeping it going. And while it does last, such a situation will cause only frustration and resentment, perhaps unspoken.
Mars in love
The position and aspects of Mars have to do with the style of your sexual drives in an assertive, active sense. It is important to take these drives into account, especially if they are not always consistent with your intellectual estimate of them. If Mars is in easy aspect and well positioned, your energies may be quite consistent and even overabundant. But if its position is more difficult, you may have to readjust your expectations to be more in line with the type and rhythm of your sexual energy.
Almost everyone has plenty of sexual energy for a full and rewarding sex life, but this energy should not be used casually or wasted. Like any other source of energy, it should be conserved and used intelligently to avoid unnecessary shortages and to produce the most pleasure.
If you can learn to be aware of the style and timing of your internal sexual energy, you can more easily attune yourself to your partner’s style and assert yourself effectively when you choose to.
Jupiter in love
Jupiter represents your positive and actively creative attitudes toward sexuality as well as life in general. Its position and aspects reflect the ease or difficulty of your expression of these attitudes.
Easy aspects of Jupiter indicate an even flow of creativity; you can be active without going past the limits of enjoyment. With more difficult aspects, you may go to extremes or overdo some aspect of sexuality. If this is the case, you should be aware of it so that you can have some external control over this tendency. That will help you see more realistically the difference between true enjoyment and too much of a good thing.
No matter what its position, Jupiter encourages activity and creative change in the areas governed by the aspected planets and the affairs governed by its sign and house. It is helpful to know exactly what these areas are, because you may not have had the opportunity to explore them and you may wish to direct your energies accordingly. This is especially likely when Jupiter falls in quite a different category than the rest of the planets in the chart, indicating much unexplored territory that can provide considerable pleasure if given some extra attention.
Saturn in love
Saturn represents sexual conservatism and, in general, inhibition. Its effects can range from healthy common sense that keeps you out of difficulties to severe repression or prudery.
Difficult aspects of Saturn usually lend a negative or self-repressive attitude toward sex in the area governed by the aspected planet or by the sign and house that Saturn is in. This effect is most likely to occur early in life before you make a real attempt to overcome these tendencies.
In easy aspect, Saturn makes for great perseverance and consistency in love, as well as a sense of honesty and honor in the friendship that is part of a long-range love affair. Easy aspects of Saturn mean sexual security, successful habits and the courage to try new directions. Difficult aspects have the opposite effect, making you feel insecure about your current mode of expression but afraid to replace it with something new.
In the long run, Saturn builds courage and character, either through the confirmation of success or through the struggle to overcome emotional difficulties, which are at last conquered. Saturn casts a rather serious light on whatever it touches, but it also lends considerable intensity.
Uranus in love
Uranus represents the principles of discovery that lie within us all, and in sexual expression it represents the quest for new and different styles of sexuality.
Uranus is rather sudden and forceful in nature, and the discoveries it brings tend to strike like lightning, particularly when it is in difficult aspect. The areas it touches will be characterized by upheaval and change. If the aspect is difficult, the changes will be upsetting; with easy aspects, the changes will bring freshness and stimulation.
The sign that Uranus is in has much to do with the attitude of everyone in your age group toward sexual exploration, since Uranus remains in each sign for a period of seven years. Depending on the aspects of Uranus in your chart, you may either accept or reject these generational attitudes. If your attitude toward sexuality differs in some way from the accepted norm, you should consider it not as a problem but as an opportunity to explore and enjoy realms of sexual expression that aren’t available to your peers.
The motive behind the Uranus effects is to discover the absolute truth about sexuality, which may be found right in your own backyard, or after an endless search or never found at all.
Neptune in love
The position of Neptune reflects your inner ideals and expectations of sexuality. These can be either confining or fulfilling, depending on the aspects involved and your willingness to deal with these matters.
The greatest problem that Neptune brings, especially when it is in difficult aspect, is that of expectations that are so high and unrealistic that they cannot be fulfilled, thus leading to disappointment. In easy aspect, however, Neptune brings strong personal reinforcement and security through continuing success and achievement, which can lend much to a happy love relationship.
You share the sign that Neptune is in with everyone in your age group, since Neptune remains in a sign for almost fourteen years. The sign represents the ideals and romantic ideas about love that are held by your generation. Those ideals may not be totally realistic, however, and they apply differently to each individual. Each person must come to an understanding of how much of the generational sexual mythology is acceptable and workable and how much is unrealistic or overdemanding. In the long run these tendencies are regulated by experiences more than by conscious effort.
Pluto in love
The position and aspects of Pluto have to do with the deep underlying motives and fears that propel you toward inner transformation and force you to come to terms with the basic issues of life and death.
On a more mundane level, Pluto governs the power motive in sexuality, the impetus for one partner, perhaps because of personal insecurity, to dominate the other. Difficult aspects of Pluto can cause serious problems in a relationship by preventing real intimacy through an irrational fear of personal invasion. Easy aspects, on the other hand, create a fundamental inner faith and security that will stand up in the face of repeated difficulties or even defeat. It can give sexuality an almost religious quality that is elevating and transforming.
You share the sign that Pluto is in with an entire generation, for it is in the same sign for at least twenty years. The sign reflects the sexual issues that each generation works to transform in order to make sexuality relevant on an individual basis.
The house position of Pluto indicates the areas in which you seek power and have a positive reforming effect on others, including your lover.
The Ascendant in love
The Ascendant or the Rising Sign represents how your physical body appears to others, so it is quite important in the discussion of sexuality. The sign on the Ascendant at your birth colors your style of presentation to a lover and the image you project to others, especially at first meeting.
Your image may or may not be consistent with your inner personality. It is important to understand the relationship between these two areas of yourself so that you will be able to tell when others are misinterpreting you because they are judging only by superficial appearances. At times you may want to consciously alter your image to suit your inner intentions or, on the other hand, you may just wish to be aware of the impression that you make so that you can work within it.
Aspects to the Ascendant have a significant effect on your physical energy and timing in sexual and social situations. If there are difficult aspects to the Ascendant, you may have to modify your approach to others in order to become more in tune with them. Reinforcing aspects can provide valuable clues to why you are as successful as you are and what reputation you may have to live up to.