Astrology : Venus and the way you love.
The way one approaches love is indicated in the natal chart by Venus’ position in sign and in house and by the aspects she forms with the other planets. Since Venus can be posited in one of the twelve houses and one of the twelve signs, there are 144 basic possibilities. This figure is almost infinitely increased by the influence of all the other planets.
In order to understand Venus’ symbolism, it is necessary to consider the following points:
The first one is the position of Venus in sign since it is the main track, or the basic indication. It may be likened to the backdrop colour which the verb “to love” puts on. It describes the “how”.
The second one is the position of Venus in house, which is only slightly less important than her position in sign, and shows the field in which one is most likely to express best one’s powers of seduction. It describes the “where”.
Then, one must analyse the aspects Venus forms with the other planets, which may have a magnifier effect, add colour, hinder, or sometimes prevent the characteristics previously identified from manifesting concretely. Aspects describe the nature of alterations.
In addition, it is necessary to consider the 5th House, its planets and aspects, if any, and to a lesser extent, the luminaries, i.e., the Sun and the Moon. Assessing Venus’ general state also provides indirect information on what the chart’s owner may expect in the affective area. When feelings are numerous and strong, so are the chances that hopes are fulfilled, at least generally speaking and on the long run, which means that one is most likely to achieve happiness. Indeed, one can receive only what one gives, and this principle is utterly appropriate in love, regardless of the transient and incidental vagaries which confirm the rule even more firmly.
Venus in the 1st House
When your Venus is in the 1st House (also called the Ascendant), which represents your behaviour or the character you readily show to other people, she contributes to give a gentle touch to your personality. She endows you with a lot of natural charm and a relaxed attitude, along with a sparkling, attractive, and sexy vitality. You have no difficulty in expressing your feelings in affectionate and appealing ways because they are an integral part of your nature, of the way you see things, and how you present yourself to people. You want to please, and you have a strong taste for beauty, luxury, the arts, and music. You seek harmony in all things, and your sense of diplomacy is one of your renowned primary qualities.
Of course, you are lucky in love. You make friends easily, and you have every reason to hope for long-lasting ties because you readily show your feelings, and it is just right that you harvest the fruits of what you sowed, sooner or later. There is no contradiction between your behaviour and your feelings, and this is what constitutes an outstanding asset for seduction.
Venus in the 2nd House
You usually associate possessions and feelings. At first, they crop up slowly, but they gradually take root and become more intense as soon as you grow attached. You then need to be sure that the person whom you set your heart on is faithful and that, somehow, he/she belongs to you.
Feelings and material well-being usually go hand in hand, and the material circumstances in which you experience love are of paramount importance to you. Living on love alone is out of the question. A cosy and opulent-looking nest, or a quite luxurious environment, is the almost indispensable condition under which you can give free rein to your sentimental impulses.
This does not mean that you are only motivated by self-interests. Actually, you often have great qualities of generosity and compassion, but you find it quite hard to separate the pleasant and materialistic aspect of things from the happy principle of forming a couple.
Besides, you crave affective security, and if you don’t have it yet, you manage to obtain it at all costs.
Venus in the 3nd House
With such a configuration, your feelings tend to manifest in a scattered way, and they may become particularly exalted whenever you are exchanging with several people at the same time, or when you are surrounded with people who understand you. Your feelings often stem from the base of common interests you share with your interlocutors in various fields, be it cultural, journalistic, scientific, or related to travels. It is during frequent short trips that you may open your heart, possibly because you then have the certainty that you do not commit yourself more than you really wish to deep down.
Correspondences of all types are favoured, whether they come in the form of letters, or through the Internet –oh! Virtuality… – and telephone calls. You tremendously appreciate this light and quite distant means of communication which enables you to open up and mix love with friendship without asking yourself too many questions.
You may be an SMS champion, always welcoming change and thoughtlessness. To tie yourself down with a sole commitment is a real challenge.
Venus in the 4th House
In order to achieve a fulfilling sentimental life, you need a strong and reassuring family base from which you can eventually consider the world outside and give free rein to your romantic excitements. It might be that you have had a happy childhood with a lot of affection and loving care, and that now, you want at any cost to reproduce the same reassuring and enduring warm feeling.
On the contrary, it might be that fate had turned your childhood into a painful period during which you underwent emotional loneliness, and that now, you want to obtain at any cost what you were deprived of in the past. In both cases, for the rest of your life, the harmony of your family structures remains an absolute necessity without which you feel that you are unable to blossom.
You usually need this security in the literal sense of the term before you can open up. When a serious relationship starts, one of your first concerns is to purchase or beautify your nest, a cosy and opulent-looking one of course. To you, interior decoration is as important as security, and you are most likely to spend a lot of time hunting out refined art works which reflect your deepest feelings, secret but warm, and reassuring, yet reasonable.
Venus in the 5th House
There is a definite affinity between house and planet. Here, Venus feels very comfortable and gives her best in terms of powerful feelings, artistic creation, leisure and entertainment, talent for fine arts or music, and the capacity to easily communicate with children.
The intensity of your affectivity is greatly increased, and more than in any other house, Venus bestows an active and enterprising attitude in this area of life. Indeed, creativity is ruled by the 5th House, and Venus enables you to blend pleasure with motivation, not only in the field of artistic creation or entertainment, but in the romance department also.
She prompts you to create fearlessly or to actively develop romantic ties with the person whom you chose. Besides, you look your best, and you are willing to display much more kindness, warmth, and seduction than in your other daily activities.
The danger with this position is that, owing to romantic dissipation or to the sheer pleasure to shine, you may fall prey of your own ability to please or to have fun.
Venus in the 6th House
This position of Venus is quite special because the essence of Venus’ symbolism, i.e. feelings and absence of limitations and control, does not blend too well with the symbolism of the 6th house, which rules constraints, daily life or work, lifestyle, subservience, and the principle of being of service. As a consequence of this association, that feelings are tied down to a framework or to some sort of obligation, even though it is not necessarily disturbing.
You are most likely to meet your spouse or your love partner in a professional setting, an association, or some specific work-oriented activity such as common professional projects, etc. (This applies more particularly to males’ chart). It seems that such contexts can more easily lift the inhibition or the self-restriction produced by this house-planet combination. Besides, it is traditionally believed that affairs with servants (with subordinates or «socially inferior » persons) or with colleagues are very favoured with this configuration.
Furthermore, if Venus in the 6th House receives no tense aspects, your daily life is fun. You appreciate working, you happily mix pleasure with necessity, you experience pleasant encounters, and you keep on discovering new and enthralling centres of interest. Most of the time, you win the friendship, the dedication, and the esteem of your colleagues, particularly the females. It is in your interest to work.
You are one of those rare persons for whom work never constitutes a constraint, but a daily pleasure, probably because you know how to tend towards what you find enjoyable. Just be careful not to fall in love too often in this context.
Venus in the 7th House
Warmth and seduction are at the service of your future or current marriage. Venus in the 7th House suggests commitment, need for reciprocation, and concrete manifestation of feelings. The emphasis is on your desire to love and be loved. In the romantic area, your entire being aspires to harmony, diplomacy, and broad-mindedness in order to find, at any cost, the common ground which might help you achieve your goal, a sweet idyll leading to a nice marriage, if possible.
Should any issue arise, such as a disagreement or a misunderstanding, you immediately undertake to cool your partner down and to put the accent on what brings you together, while cleverly erasing what might have harmed the harmony you value so deeply.
It is obvious that, with such a complacent behaviour, you steadily progress towards your goals. However, the price to pay might be quite high. Your dependency upon your couple becomes tangible. Surprisingly enough, you don’t mind at all because that’s just the way you are. All things considered, you prefer to carry on your constant game of self-sacrifice and reap its fruits rather than to push yourself to the forefront and run the risk of being less attractive…
Actually, nothing makes you happier than to legalize your relationship, and it is certain that once you are married, you become a perfect spouse who makes every effort to make life enjoyable for both of you.
Venus in the 8th House
According to the Tradition, this configuration tightly associates feelings and sexuality. When you fall in love, your feelings quickly reach a high level of intensity and carry you into the world of passion. You are not half-hearted, and you love deeply or not at all.
Your personal view is that love physical aspects and desire are intrinsically linked to feelings. Besides, it does not take you long before you deliberately distil a fair amount of torrid eroticism into your behaviour and turn your idyll into an affair as burning and deep as your inner feelings!
If Venus receives no adverse aspects, possessive tendencies are expressed positively. You happily care for your sweetheart and you watch over his/her financial interests. Indeed, Venus in the 8th House protects everything that is related to the management of other people’s assets, particularly those of the spouse. You behave with benevolence in your couple and also in your dealings in general, which usually brings about good surprises in the guise of inheritances.
Sometimes, when transiting planets form square or opposition aspects with your Venus, there may be a risk that you fall into the trap of obsessive and painful jealousy. Such a situation would be a disgrace since, as the saying goes, groundless jealousy is uncalled-for and damaging, while it is useless and belated when harm has been done.
Venus in the 9th House
The choice is yours between love encountered during your trips abroad or the love for travels, and focussing your feelings on your ideal of escapism into distant topics. Or both, perhaps. In any case, you often tend to fall in love or to marry a person of foreign descent because exoticism and differences quite mysteriously appeal to you, and there is nothing you can do to prevent this phenomenon. This applies more frequently to males, since in their chart, Venus symbolises the ideal woman, whereas in a female’s chart, Mars symbolises the type of man which is bound to attract them.
As far as feelings are concerned, your thirst for space and change is expressed very early. You cannot be content with routine, and you need to experience exciting, new, unusual, and unknown events. You have itchy feet, and you feel fine only when you find yourself in a ship at the other end of the world, or in any airport, with your senses on the lookout, ready to be seduced by the strange charm of a person who does not resemble you at all.
Your feelings are immense and generous, sometimes even sublimated and idealised because you adamantly refuse any kind of limitation. You are driven by a constant need to acquire the higher knowledge which can only be found in spiritual matters or, in the literal sense, in the exploration of remote lands, or by analogy, in the company of people of foreign culture who are so enriching.
Your personality is endowed with the tinge of nobleness and long-term vision which characterizes mature people who do not look at things from a self-centred and simplistic perspective. It is true that, seen from a plane, the authenticity of all things important finally stands out with more acute sharpness…
Venus in the 10th House
Unless this configuration receives hard aspects from other planets, you tend to link career and love, and even marriage, and to combine business with pleasure in ways that may affect your destiny. Females in general may be instrumental in your social promotion, and their support may speed up your success. You do not hesitate to make use of your charm and your powers of seduction for your own ends. (This characteristic is increased if you are a male.) Sometimes, you are attracted to « Venusian » occupations such as the arts, aesthetics, decoration, luxury trade, or diplomacy. In any case, you tremendously appreciate your occupation. You feel very good and you enjoy an affective popularity which results in outrageous luck and may propel you to the top, or at least, to where you long to be.
More often than not, you are a perfectionist, and the careful attention you pay to the pursuit of your objectives greatly contributes to their achievement. You never forget them, and nothing delights you more than rubbing shoulders with important people in the higher spheres of diplomacy, politics, or business. You are happy to act as mediator or go-between and to reap the well-deserved reward for your irresistible charm.
In some cases, the Tradition considers that this configuration indicates that males are strongly attached to their mother, which has a greatly beneficial influence on their destiny. In some adverse circumstances, you may lack constancy or perseverance in love. The other possibility is that, owing to your carelessness, love may somehow thwart you professional objectives. You may be controlled by women, or you may lack authority. You are very likely to find yourself doing a balancing act between your love life and your professional life without being able to make a decision, and as a result, damaging both.
Venus in the 11th House
Your sociability is usually impressive, and this strong characteristic of your personality enables you to navigate with ease between love and friendship. You are so welcoming and charming that your entourage do not know where they stand. It is most likely that you get great satisfactions out of your friends and that, in most cases, your relationship imperceptibly and gradually shifts from friendship to true love! Besides, should your tie be short-lived, it is certain that you will remain in excellent terms with your ex and that you will get back to the warm friendship which had been the foundation of your idyll with memories as a bonus…
Your affectivity is quite paradoxical, at the same time warm and devoid of self-interest. Indeed, as indicated by this astrological house and its natural ruler Aquarius, in matters of love, you are a refined and tolerant person, and you are more interested in collective and broad visions than in strictly individual approaches.
You are often granted protection for the implementation of your projects, particularly by your numerous female friends who highly value your education, your refinement and your thirst for outings, whether they involve the theatre, a concert, or a conference, etc.
Your potential weaknesses may precisely stem from your detachment or from your lack of involvement, which, as natural as they are to you, may offend or shock some of your love relationships. Your partners may criticize what they consider to be aloof or half-hearted attitudes and request that you change the way you express your feelings. In such moments, being slightly more demonstrative is all it takes to prevent budding reproaches…
Venus in the 12th House
Whether you like it or not, you embody the French saying that « To live happy, let’s live hidden »! As far as your love life is concerned, nothing suits you better than tranquillity, calm and secrecy. This may be linked to many different reasons such as shyness, romanticism, modesty, etc. In any case, it is true that you tend to be better off when you experience your romances in the clandestine mode, and that legal marriage, usually so much sought after, frightens you more than anything else.
You are romantic, secretive, and sometimes melancholic. You tend to sublimate or spiritualise your feelings. As a result, you may go through moments of solitude, but they don’t affect you seriously. Indeed, you are a bit fatalistic, and you associate love with ordeals in general. Is it owing to your dedicated and loving nature or to your innate goodness? Whatever the answer, you are likely to meet your soul mate in the midst of difficult circumstances or in a context of sorrow. In most cases, you establish significant ties during such occasions. It may happen in closed settings such as a hospital, a convent, or a prison, for, mysteriously enough, they are the places where your love springs up and develops easily.
You are a philanthropist with a genuinely compassionate soul, and you give of your best whenever the situation is fraught with sorrows and uncertainties. You belong to the category of people who commit themselves into humanitarian action with sincerity and fervour. This type of work offers a good outlet to your feelings, in so far as you don’t express them strongly enough in your real love life. Despite misleading appearances, you are shy and reserved in the private sphere of feelings, but you are so nice, dedicated, and generous that you are not any worse off than anyone else. Actually, you manage to turn adversities into personal and enriching experiences for your spirituality and your destiny alike. In addition, you are blessed with some sort of protection against life hardships. To the astonishment of your entourage, the ravages of loneliness leave you unaffected.